Well, I went to D’s soon after I sent that message and after talking to S on the phone I was decided that I wanted to just leave since neither fighting nor not fighting was especially attractive. She was there when I got in and she said she talked some to her mom and she said she could leave her key and I could go get a copy made.
Something that really struck me in talking to her was when she asked me if I thought she was being unreasonable and I realized that in her mind she was being perfectly rational. She doesn’t see her actions as self-centered or unempathic, when she asked I could see she really meant it. Threatening to lock me out of the house I am paying her $100 to stay in because I have to work late and getting pissed because my shower time slowed her down for 10 minutes when I had gotten in past 1:00 for the last 3 nights was not to her an unreasonable position.